Self Esteem Essentials
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We know that our self-esteem develops and evolves through our lives as we build an image of ourselves through our experiences with different people and activities. Experiences during childhood play a large role in shaping our basic self-concept. When we were growing up, our successes (and failures) and how we were treated by family, teachers, coaches, religious authorities, and peers, all contributed to the creation of our basic self-esteem and self-concept.

Low self-esteem:
Being harshly criticized, yelled at or beaten, ignored, ridiculed, or teased
Being expected to be perfect at all time
Blaming self for failures: “I am a failure because that person does not love me” vs. “That person is unable to love me because of something about that person”

Consequences of Low Self-Esteem:
It can create anxiety, stress, loneliness, hopelessness, and depression
It can seriously impair relationships and academic and job performance
It can lead to underachievement and drug or alcohol abuse to compensate and to reduce shame

Essential Actions and Qualities for Self-Esteem

Appreciate your uniqueness and others’ uniqueness
Connect with others who are nurturing and respecting: Be praised & listened to
Be goal-driven with goals that are realistic and self-rewarding
Act courageously on behalf of self and others
Respond with resilience
Nurture core aspects of yourself
Accept self: Validate the whole package
Meet others like oneself; find kindred spirits
Reject negative and inaccurate labels of yourself
Live your own values: Find an ethical center that fits you
Spend time with being creative and practicing self-expression
Be loved by yourself or others without conditions or “strings”
Experience competence in dealing with stresses and relationships
Learn and practice coping skills to survive difficulties: Develop self-trust and confidence

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