It’s Spring!
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It finally feels like winter is over. As we move into spring and experience the changing seasons, I’ve been talking with clients about what Dr. William Doherty, psychologist and marriage therapist at the University of Minnesota, calls the Minnesota winter of marriage. He says, “I now think of long-term marriage like I think about living in my home state of Minnesota. You move into marriage in the springtime of hope, but eventually arrive at the Minnesota winter, with its cold and darkness. Many of us are tempted to give up and move south at this point, not realizing that maybe we’ve hit a rough spot in a marriage that’s actually above average. The problem with giving up, of course, is that our next marriage will enter its own winter at some point. So do we just keep moving on, or do we make our stand now–with this person, in this season?”As the days get warmer and longer, I hope you enjoy this hopeful season. I encourage you to consider the possibility of growth and change with so many reminders all around.

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